Counterpart – Introverted/ Gut
In this conflict, your counterpart reacts as follows:
Introverted and “From a gut feeling”
So your counterpart is a “calm perceiver” and, under stress, a “seclusive tortoise”.
Here are some of the most prominent features for this type of stress typology:
- Withdrawal
- Inner wall
- Lack of communication
- In extreme cases, depressive moods at times.
- In case of escalation, you often have the following thoughts or feelings: Your counterpart remains silent and withdraws completely.
Their motivation, i.e. their intention is:
- Feel good and simply perceive the situation.
What your counterpart wants to avoid, what they mostly fear:
- Quarrel
- Aggression
Stressors, i.e. behaviour that stresses your counterpart:
- Pressure
- Insistently trying to talk them into something
Recommendation on how to deal with this stress pattern:
- Have patience
- Take out pressure
- Don’t try to talk them into something
- Show empathy
- Address silence with questions
- Show interest in your counterpart
- Be clear about your needs
- Invite
- Entice
- Put agreements in writing
- Possible formulation: “I reckon you will want to think about it. I’m already curious about what you will say.”
Copyright Dr. Gabriele Lang
Use your skills and tools for future situations. This will help you release “tensions in the air”. It helps you distinguish your counterpart, i.e. the person from their behaviour. On the premise “skill comes with practice”, think about it especially in stress situations and apply what you know now.
